To me, being a teenager today means being relevant and up-to-date, being someone my peers would love to have around. It라이브 바카라 very important to me that people hear me, which makes me louder than I mean to be sometimes.
I try to treat someone who isn’t of my gender differently; keep distance and have minimal physical contact possible. The point being to cause as little discomfort to them as possible because I think it라이브 바카라 wrong to make anyone feel uncomfortable.
I deal with the need for validation by finding sources that I feel validated by, whether it be other friend groups or video games. My go-to source to feel better or feel validated was to play video games, because in that, I had no one to teach me how to be better at it. Just me, and my skills, would speak for themselves.
Social media makes me feel envious of others. They meet friends or have hangouts; I am unable to do much of that. But otherwise, I don’t bother with social media other than to text my friends. There were a few years of my life during which I was completely distanced from people of my age group, and playing multi-player video games, being on a communication platform, was a life-saving grace for me. I would want nothing more than to play games with friends because that라이브 바카라 all I could do. Although I did meet a lot of male extremists in the virtual world and never understood what they were saying and what they meant by “being a man”.
Manhood used to mean physical strength and being in control to me, but right from childhood, it never bothered me to be teased for having female friends. I’ve learnt over time that being a man is more about being gentle and patient. My views about masculinity have changed with age since I was reading more and I felt that I wanted to be a better friend to my female friends.
I don’t watch red pill videos. I never could associate with such videos or take those people seriously as they seemed so strange and extremely laughable. I find it hard to believe that people would listen to such things as it was just a man screaming about how to be “manly”. Their treatment of women is unthinkable to me. I find it ridiculous that someone thinks it is okay to say such things.
I feel that women are emotionally much smarter than men and also better at maintaining their mental health. Women are easier to talk to in many ways than most men.
To me, parents are figures who guide a child into being an ethical, genuine and kind adult. As for the school system, that is where you pursue your education along with making emotional connections with people who gel with you. There isn’t enough emphasis on the fact that schools are the main hub for children to interact with their peers. It is a double-edged sword though. In school, children are surrounded by so many different people and they make precious childhood friendships. On the other hand, they are exposed to all sorts of ideologies there that will affect the way they look at the world. Even without social media access, just being around people would do this to them. But they do have the freedom of choosing which ideology to pursue.
Absolute freedom would not be all that different from anarchy. Freedom with a sense of responsibilities seems like the ideal sort of liberty to me. There is also freedom in a structure, which is the world we live in, where there are consequences for our actions.
Finding a Centre
I often feel misunderstood as I have difficulty communicating effectively with people. I feel no one really puts in the effort to understand what I’m saying before they pass judgement. I’m not able to form sentences quickly, which causes misunderstandings. There are often misunderstandings in dating, and there is pressure to avoid them. I am a mess when it comes to gift giving and personally, that would stress me out. I would also feel self-created pressure to avoid fighting with the other person, and try to discuss our problems and solve them. This would involve more of a civil understanding than an emotional one, which I feel is more important. Finding a sort of centre would be ideal. Although I know that nothing is “ideal” and that라이브 바카라 fine too.
Dating would involve status for some, attractiveness for others, money, popularity, etc. I would most likely date someone who I get along with really well. We wouldn’t have many common interests. That way, it is easier to make lasting conversation and to learn things and to do activities together. More importantly, I would prefer someone who brings me calmness during my times of crisis.
Gurmehar Romana is a Grade 11 student. He studies art and design
